Dear relation therapist

Oh, the drama.

The relation expert, at least the person who claims to be one, is not charmed by a comment.

Is this typical behavior for relation experts, certain men, a person with low self-esteem or his race? I guess it's a combination of all of it but most of a narcissists.
Narcissists see a hostile attack in every word and other people not as their equal. A narcissist loves to brag but at the same hand it's a drama queen, complains about how the rest of the world is against him. It's never his fault but others cause him misery and make him behave like a jerk. If you have (had) a relationship with one you know how it is.
Egomaniacs have a certain charm that makes some people fall for them, believes them, crawls through the dust for them and even let molest themselves by them. Why? Because these people are easy to fool, manipulate and do everything for one friendly sign the "I am the only one who knows what's good for you, I love you" magic words.

What is the drama about?
A series of photos and some text. The text says the woman is strong, a fighter because she is Nigerian.

and a simple, short comment given

I am not sure if that is typical for being Nigerian.
I like the photos and the green dress. An upvote for you.

A very aggressive/hostile response is written back.
Interesting is to read how the author feels offended by the first line or who knows the whole comment.
It makes one think. A compliment is given and the man is not able to see it. If he can not see it how can he be a relation expert, advice people?
Somehow he reminds me of the former president of The Gambia. The man who claimed he cured aids with some herbs, the man who changed his religion to have more wives, the man who abused his own people but always knew better, lived a life of a god and filled his bank accounts abroad while he drained the country.

If you feel the need to promote your race, prove certain skills are specific for your race there's something seriously wrong with you, with you and your self-esteem.

What makes one think women of a certain race feel or think different from other women.
Is the relation expert a woman? Did he travel the world? Met them all, listened to them? Heard, felt and understood what they said? To me, his statement sounds shortsighted.

Being strong, fighting is what most women do.
No matter where they live. If they would easily give up they would not have had rights at all, all be stuck with a narcissist or dragged behind a car through the city or set at fire. This is not the case.
Women give life, fight for men and children who do not honor them, work their asses of to support in their needs. Women please people who will never please them and serve many who don't deserve to be served at all. They are seldom taken seriously because of their gender, are paid less and through history they fought in many wars but never started one or received a trophy for fighting someone else's war.

The relation therapist's answer is clear: If you are not black or Nigerian I am not interested in your answer!
To him people are not equal. And this is how racism and hate stay alive are spread with help of social media. They do not start with white people only but black people are huge racists too. They are the ones who feel offended, look down upon others and have a huge urge to feel special, show off, brag, be seen and most of all heard. That's why they are so loud, do not communicate and start a drama out of each word. I know because my grandmother and parents were not different and it gives one a nasty feeling. By this behaviour they prove the opposite what they already thought. They are the ones who keep prejudices alive no matter how hard the rest works.

I read no personal attack in the comment given.
What I read is a compliment made about the photos, the dress and one given to all women in the world. Strong women who no matter what happens to them or in this world pick up the pieces and fight for their lives, rights and most of all those of others.

Sincerely,
your psychologist.

This is my entry to

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If you can't stand a comment, hear someone's opinion, do NOT post in public on social media.