Hello friends of this community; In the past I was a person who found it difficult to make decisions, whether small ones, and even worse big ones, it was very difficult for me to commit to a decision, whether in my professional life, in studies, in my love relationships, at work and other things; If you are one of those people who doesn't know what you want to do with your life, pay attention.

So the first thing we need to understand is that we have to learn to have the freedom to know that it is okay to make mistakes, that it is okay to choose something and then change your mind. How many times, for example, a career change, have you gone into business administration because you had been told that it had many outlets, many opportunities, but after a year you have realized that that was not for you and you have changed to something that you liked more.

You know why this happens, because in the end you are the one who must make these decisions, because you are the one who is going to study, because it is your life, but this happens a lot when we are young, we are greatly influenced by the opinion of others, especially that of our parents, but they do not do it out of harm, in fact, we think that since they are the people who know us best, who want our good, who love us, we should listen to them.

In the end we pay attention to the “external noise” and that prevents us from listening to our “inner voice”, it is also true that we make decisions based on what we know and what we understand, at that moment and many times youth and wisdom do not go together.

So in the end it requires more experiences, it requires a process, of studying, of self-knowledge, of better understanding what is and what is not for you, what you want or don't want for yourself, of course, you don't discover those things by staying at home, you don't discover it either because you are there, meeting people, maturing; So rest assured because these types of decisions are not completely wrong decisions because it was through being there in that race, with those people that you realized that that was not what you wanted and that rather what you wanted was something else.

The freedom to make mistakes is important, notice that when we have very high rigidity we can feel that we cannot change our decision, that if we start something we must finish it no matter what, but that is not necessarily true, sometimes changing direction is okay, if we grew up in a very rigid environment where we did not have much room to make mistakes that can interfere with our decision-making process.

If you are a very rigid, very self-critical person, this rigidity can extend to your decision-making process with the belief that you cannot make a mistake and that you need to make the right decision. This thinking is one of the things that most prevents people from making decisions. Imagine the weight of someone who believes that they cannot make a mistake and that their decision must be the right one no matter what, and people have a lot of difficulty making decisions precisely because they believe in this.

Sometimes people ask, how do I know if this person is the right one for me, how do I know if this relationship is going to work, how am I going to know if this job is going to turn out well, if this career is the right one, if you have this fear you are not going to be able to commit to the decisions and you are going to feel a lot of anxiety when making decisions, therefore, you need to take off that weight once and for all, that there are no 100% correct paths, what exists are paths that are more likely to work, but there is always a risk in every choice, in each decision process.

Write this down in your head, every decision involves a risk and you need to be willing to accept that it could go wrong, it could have gone wrong, like your career change, but you were already mature enough to make a decision for yourself and this itself gives you a better chance of it going well, that is, it is more likely that you will be happy doing something that you yourself have decided, than something that someone else had decided for you, it is not a guarantee, but it is more likely.

So the point is that we have no guarantees of a 100% correct path, every choice involves a risk and this should already take a great weight off your shoulders, so how do you know if this relationship is going to work, because we do not have absolute certainty, you will have to be willing to take the risk.